What is a womanizer?
Womanizers are people, mostly males, who get involved in frequent casual relationships with multiple women. They are usually charming and are able to understand the weaknesses of the women. Those weaknesses are what they take advantage of, encouraging women to have romantic encounters. Their relationships have no emotionality or commitment. For womanizers, their wishes come first, and they use various ways to manipulate and pursue innumerable women.
“Saying a womanizer loves women is like saying a fighter ace loves his kills.” -Wayne Gerard Trotman 
Who is a womanizer?
The word “Womanizer” came up in the 1590s. Back then, it referred to a man who had feminine gestures. In the 1800s, the meaning changed to those who chased women. A womanizer, therefore, is a person who has frequent sexual relationships with different women. It is usually males who we call womanizers.
Such men are usually extremely charming and charismatic. They know exactly who they would be able to manipulate to achieve what they want. For them, they come first, and their needs are a priority. They usually have a pattern of short-lived romantic relationships where although they seek approval and power, they show no commitment and a lack of empathy .
Even though there are many people in the world who go in for casual relationships or have multiple partners, not all of them we can label womanizers. The word is only for those who are habitual of sexual exploitation without thinking about the harm they may cause to the women they indulge with.
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What is the psychology of becoming a womanizer?
The psychology of becoming a womanizer involves a combination of various factors and motivations :
- Attachment Insecurity: Our childhood experiences prepare us for who we will be as adults. If you are someone who grew up in an insecure household environment where you did not see love and care, then you are likely to develop womanizer behavior.
- Narcissistic Traits: Being a womanizer, you might only think about yourself and be your only priority. You might feel that you deserve validation and need admiration from the numerous partners that you are involved with. Doing this can boost your self-esteem and make you feel like the king of the world.
- Fear of Commitment: A classic trait of being a womanizer is the fear of commitment and getting too close in a relationship. This fear causes short-term relationships. You may also feel that showing emotions is a sign of weakness.
- Sensation Seeking: If you get bored of a person very easily and need constant change, you might incline toward becoming a womanizer. This need for change can be thrilling and may seem like an adventure.
- Role Models: If you have grown up around people who were or showed womanizing behavior, then it is likely that you will turn out to be one as well. You may have seen this in the movie “Ghost of Girlfriends Past,” where Matthew McConaughey’s character grew up watching his uncle.
Why do women fall for womanizers?
Usually, we all want secure and safe environments, but some people’s adventurous energy can rub off on us :
- Charisma and Charm: Womanizers have a certain level of charm and grace to themselves. These qualities make them attractive as they are confident. To women, these qualities can be fresh.
- The Desire for Excitement: Everyone loves a little thrill and adventure in life. Womanizers create a similar image of themselves. For women who are bored with their present lives, this thrill can be exciting.
- Misjudging Ability to Change: Sometimes, we overestimate ourselves and the positivity in us. This can be the reason why some women may believe that they can change a womanizer’s behavior and be the one to make him commit.
- Low Self-Esteem or Insecurity: Womanizers know who needs them the most. They give their attention to women with low self-esteem or insecurities.
- Lack of Awareness or Information: Some women trust people easily because of a lack of information and awareness. Such women may not see the patterns of a womanizer.
Should you avoid dating a womanizer?
Whether or not to avoid dating a womanizer depends on individual preferences and values :
- Emotional Well-being: Women generally need emotional pampering. They need their partners to say that they are there for them and listen to them. Since womanizers only care about themselves, their partners might feel disconnected and dissatisfied.
- Trust and Commitment: Long-term commitment is the basis for stable relationships. In such a relationship, trust and a sense of security are the foundation. Womanizers fear commitment and follow a pattern of being in multiple romantic relationships. This pattern can spoil the relationship.
- Risk of Infidelity: Womanizers like the thrill and newness of a new partner. They may get bored with their current relationship very quickly. So they can have the tendency to cheat on their partners, leading to feelings of betrayal.
- Self-Esteem Impact: Being with a womanizer can make their partners feel used. This feeling can severely impact their partner’s self-esteem and self-worth. They might feel that they are undesirable because their womanizer partner moved on in a jiffy.
How to deal with a womanizer you’re already involved with?
Dealing with a womanizer you are already involved with can be challenging, but some strategies may be helpful :
- Assess Your Boundaries: You need to be very clear about what you want in your relationship. Knowing and talking about your boundaries and expectations, specifically in terms of commitment, trust, and respect, can help build a healthy, safe, and happy relationship.
- Self-Empowerment: As an individual, you need to feel empowered and hyped. You should be so strong in your own self that nobody can shake or make you question your self-worth. Know that you deserve a partner who respects and values you.
- Communication and Honesty: Communication is very important. Be sure to have open and honest conversations with your womanizer partner about your needs and concerns. You might end up having a happy and satisfied relationship if your partner is willing to have this conversation and take care of your concerns.
- Seek Support: So go ahead and talk to friends, family, or a therapist about everything that is going on in your life. by doing so, you might be able to understand the bigger picture.
- Consider Ending the Relationship: If your womanizer partner is not willing to give you the support you need, then there is no point in continuing the relationship. Sometimes, it’s important to put your needs and boundaries over someone else’s.
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Nobody is born with the feelings of intentionally hurting another person. Our home environment, role models, and friends shape who we will be. So although being a womanizer is not entirely a person’s fault, it is important to know what you can do to deal with such a romantic partner. A womanizer can be charming and charismatic, but they will have multiple partners in their life. They may not care for someone else and be their own number one priority. They might be attractive to some women who are low on self-esteem, naive, or in need of excitement. These feelings can further add to your mental health concerns. Therefore, it is important for you to be aware of everything before entering a relationship with a womanizer, to avoid heartache and trust issues.
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