Anger can arguably be referred to as the most complicated emotion human beings feel. In daily life, feeling anger can be dismissed as a sign of emotional immaturity, or as the source of unnecessary conflict. However, this antagonised emotion is something all of us feel. Which is why we arrive at an intriguing question — is anger always bad? Can anger be good for you?
Similar to any other emotion, anger requires understanding and direction. Uncontrolled anger can often lead to aggression and turmoil, but getting into the habit of constantly repressing anger can also have consequences on your mental health. It is when we embrace anger’s potential for change, growth, and wisdom that we strike a true balance.
But how do we differentiate between constructive anger and destructive anger? Understanding the psychology of anger is the first step in learning how to channel it effectively. Let’s dive into it!
Understanding Anger Psychology
The American Psychology Association (APA) defines anger as an emotional state that varies in intensity ranging from mild irritation to intense fury and rage.
Similar to other emotions, anger is accompanied by physiological changes — you may feel your heart racing, your hands shaking, or an urge to take action when you’re angry. Also similar to our other emotions – anger can be caused by internal and external circumstances both:
- Internal Causes: These can stem from personal thoughts, emotions, or unresolved issues. For example, someone struggling with self-doubt may feel anger toward themselves for not meeting their own expectations.
- External Causes: These come from outside events or interactions. For example, receiving unfair criticism at work can lead to anger toward a colleague or boss.
Can Anger Be Good For You? Understanding “Healthy” Anger
Why is it that we feel angry? A good explanation comes from evolution. According to the recalibration theory of anger (Sell, 2011), anger serves an adaptive function. Anger can often be a way for people to demand better treatment when they feel undervalued. If someone isn’t considering an angry person’s needs or feelings enough, anger acts as a signal to “recalibrate” or adjust their behavior.
In other words, anger pushes the other person to take the angry person’s interests and wellbeing more seriously. This also explains several other features of anger:
- People often justify their anger by pointing out unfairness and demanding better treatment. In fact, anger is today widely recognized as a catalyst for social change. Many social justice movements start with groups of people getting angry and demanding better treatment.
- In this context, anger is important for one to assert their own wellbeing when it is not being prioritized enough, either by other people, social systems, or the individual themselves.
- This perspective also helps us understand the relationship between anger and mental health. We are evolutionally driven to survive, and if our needs aren’t being met, we feel angry. Anger as an emotion helps us take action to demand or build a better life for ourselves.
- While historically anger has been seen as immoral or even sinful (Potego & Novaco, 2010) – this perspective is shifting. The rise of Psychology took into consideration the dynamics between anger and mental health, how repressing or suppressing anger for too long can lead to anxiety, depression, and a range of other psychological issues (Potego & Novaco, 2010).
Constructive Anger Vs Destructive Anger – Understanding The Difference
As deliberated upon in the previous section — anger is an approach emotion as it is meant to drive you into some kind of action. It helps a person address threats or overcome barriers to achieve a goal (Phoenix Australia, 2022).
However, this does not mean that anger has gotten its bad reputation out of nowhere. For it to truly lead to positive change, differentiating between constructive anger vs destructive anger is crucial. One of the biggest reasons that anger is seen negatively is that it is conflated with aggression and violence.
- Researchers on anger now know that it does not necessarily lead to aggression or violence. Anger is the emotion one feels, how they react is what leads to aggression or violence. Notice that in the definition of anger, APA does not describe it to have certain behaviors — instead, we focus on its physiological aspects. Feeling anger is not the same as engaging in aggression or violence.
- According to Phoenix Australia, aggression is a behavior intended to cause physical or psychological harm, while violence is an extreme form of aggression aimed at intentional injury. On a continuum of severity, aggression ranges from minor acts to severe violence.
- It is possible to experience anger without displaying aggression, and many acts of aggression or violence occur without anger as the driving force. For example, bullying may occur not because the bully is angry at the target, but instead because the bully wants to establish some kind of power or control.
- While anger can sometimes trigger aggression or violence, it is not always the root cause.
So, How Do I Differentiate Between the Two?
Hughes et al. (2019) explain that the concept of constructive anger suggests that anger as an emotion can be good, positive, and healthy. It usually has a three-stage process — an activating event occurs, our brains try to make sense of it, and finally, we act. It is at the third stage that anger can lead to aggression or violence. And it is at the second stage, when you’re trying to make sense of your angry feelings — that you can choose to react constructively rather than destructively.
Here are some points to keep in mind the next time you find yourself wondering how to be constructive with your anger:
| Constructive Anger | Destructive Anger |
| Helps you channel angry feelings into meaningful actions that drive a necessary change | Involves the act of lashing out impulsively |
| Helps you resolve existing problems in your life circumstances | May not make a long-lasting change in your life, and instead cause damage |
| Feels manageable and does not further escalate your problems | Causes more problems, does not feel manageable, and instead feels like it “takes over” |
| May feel healing and cathartic when you allow yourself to feel it without judgement | May leave you feeling guilty and resentful in the long term |
| Helps you communicate your boundaries and stand up for yourself | May involve harming others or/and yourself |
How To Use Anger Positively
If you’re someone who struggles with anger in any way, the first good news is, your anger may not be all bad. The second good news is that channeling anger for positive change might be exactly what you need. Change can show up in different ways, anger can either lead you to be able to better stand up for yourself to injustice in social settings, or it can point towards your unhealthy patterns and help you truly channel it to positive change for yourself.
Establishing healthy anger related patterns is important for one’s wellbeing and growth. Here are some approaches to channelling healthy anger:
- Identify Triggers and Patterns: If you feel angry too often, keep a note of the situations or thoughts that provoke it. Journaling and reflecting on the exact sequence of events or thoughts can help you understand your triggers. Acknowledging them without judgement is key to resolving them and implementing healthy anger management techniques.
- Practice Mindfulness: Mindfulness is a topic seen favorably for a variety of mental health challenges, because it emphasises staying in the present and grounding yourself in the moment. Mindfulness-based interventions, such as deep breathing and meditation, have been shown to reduce anger and aggressive behavior (Richard et al., 2022). Practicing these exercises will help you observe your emotions without judgement and thereby help you react more calmly and constructively. Instead of taking impulsive steps that don’t help, you may be able to come up with constructive ways to express your anger.
- Communicate Effectively: A tricky part about managing anger is that it can often occur due to external circumstances that are out of control. Nevertheless, expressing anger through assertive, non-aggressive communication is helpful in facilitating constructive conflict resolution. As far as you can, attempt to clearly articulate your feelings without resorting to hostility towards another person. This can help reduce misunderstandings and improve your interpersonal relationships.
- Use Anger as Motivation to Problem Solve: Anger may not be all in your head – it can be caused by very real life circumstances and problems that you may need to address. When you feel yourself getting angry, think about the long-term and bigger picture. Actively brainstorm ideas and possible alternatives to getting out of environments or life circumstances that are leading you to feel constantly angry.
- Use Humour: Sometimes, to diffuse anger, all you need to do is take it all less seriously. When you feel yourself getting angry, try to look at the situation in a humorous light. This can help you get a more balanced perspective on the situation and aid in rational decision making rather than reacting impulsively.
Conclusion
Today, anger is understood as a complex, multifaceted emotion that, when properly channeled, can serve as a force for personal growth, social justice, and psychological resilience. Like any powerful force, anger requires understanding and direction. Uncontrolled, it can lead to aggression and turmoil. On the other hand, embracing anger’s potential allows us to use its intensity to create necessary changes in our lives.
So, the next time you feel that familiar surge, remember: it’s not about suppressing anger but mastering it to pave the way for healthy anger.
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